Monday, April 13, 2015

Dating: nobody is a expert (except maybe historians...)

So you have mastered friendship in the UK, but what if you want something more? There’s a new person in your life that you laugh with, can open up to, and whenever you’re together there’s always a ‘spark’, or maybe you want to expand your friendship circle and find someone new to connect with… sounds like you might want to try dating!
Dating in the UK is something that seems simple at first, but the reality of it (much like a lot of things in life) can be difficult!


 Let’s start at the very beginning, what is dating? Well, in the UK it can mean a lot of different things to different people, but it generally involves spending time with one particular person to find out if there is something special about them that you like, and to see if they find something special to like about you!

Many people in the UK begin dating in their teens and can stay with a girlfriend or boyfriend for anything between a few hours and several years! In a small number of cases, some teenage couples stay together and end up marrying one another. However, most teen relationships these days do not last to marriage and people in the UK will date several different people before settling down in a long-term relationship or marriage.


People begin dating in a number of ways here in the UK. It is not very often two people will randomly meet, connect and then one ask the other out on a date, like they would in a Hollywood movie. People in the UK tend to approach dating through group interactions; usually meeting people through friends or co-workers on a night out. People will usually interact as part of a group and approach someone that they like during this time. If they get on well, it may then result in doing something together just the two of them.

People in the UK tend to prefer the group interaction rather than one-on-one; it can be less intimidating for both people involved! With a group present, there can be less pressure to make a good impression as you have the ability to interact as a group and make a good impression by talking with everyone around you rather than to one individual. And if things don’t go as well as you’d hoped, it can be much less awkward too!


As interacting as part of a group is seen as the ‘normal’ way of raising the possibility of dating, everyone feels much more at ease and understands the situation. Having someone stop you in the street, pay you a compliment and ask for your telephone number can catch people off-guard and worry them!

In more recent times, people have become more open to finding that “special someone” through the internet. It was once seen as the option of the hopeless-in-love and a place that only “nerds” and “geeks” would dare to look for a date, but internet dating has become a mainstream way of meeting new people. Like meeting people whilst part of a group, talking to people online can be less daunting; you send a message, they send one back, and hopefully a conversation grows from that. With a large number of mobile phone apps and websites now available to provide this, the stigma once attached to online dating is clearly going away!

The only downside to online dating however is making sure you still have plenty to talk about once you meet in person!



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